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Mistakes Men Make

     Although manners maven Emily Post died in 1960, her legacy continues on the internet.  EmilyPost.com answers just about any question you could imagine in an encyclopedia of articles on etiquette.  The site is operated by Emily’s descendents as part of The Emily Post Institute.

Peter Post

Peter Post is a descendent of Emily Post and a director of The Emily Post Institute.  He conducts seminars for businesses and writes a weekly question and answer business etiquette in an advice column, “Etiquette at Work,” for The Boston Sunday Globe. He is the author of five etiquette books including the New York Times bestseller Essential Manners for Men which has been reprinted eight times.

     Having appeared on almost every major network and written for most major mags, it’s evident that Peter Post is an expert in his field.  In an article last year, he listed the top five mistakes that men make.  They include (paraphrased):


  • 1. failing to use good table manners, especially chewing with your mouth open;
  • 2. leaving the toilet seat up after you use it;
  • 3. doing things that put people around you down (This includes failing to introduce your significant other to people you are talking to at a party, hogging the remote. Positive actions include: doing little things that make her smile when she thinks of you, putting dishes in the dishwasher instead of leaving them on the table or in the sink, cleaning out the sink after you shave, opening the car door for her, holding her coat for her or standing when she approaches the table in a restaurant.);
  • 4. staring at other women (The focus of attention should be on the person you came with.); and
  • 5. failing to use “please” and “thank you.”

Find more outstanding etiquette info at:  http://www.emilypost.com/

Tomorrow, Unique Proposals.  Rita Bay

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A Short History of Manners

Louis XIV's Court

     Manners originated thousands of years ago as rules for proper social conduct among members of a group.  Depending on the society or the group within a society, manners could be simple or very complex.  The manners appropriate at the royal court of France during the 17th century were very complex.  The elaborate etiquette that developed in the French court soon spread to the upper classes and courts of western Europe. King Louis XIV even had his preferred manners printed up on cards and distributed to his noble. Many of Washington’s Rules of Civility from yesterday fall within the simple group and some (but not all) are used today.

Emily Post

      As a culture changes, so does its’ manners.  What would be considered appropriate in the United States might be insulting in other cultures.  What was appropriate behavior a century ago might be inappropriate today.  The advent of technology alone brings up issues that must be addressed. 

      While Washington provided the first set of rules for the United States, debutante Emily Post wrote the first book of etiquette in 1922.  Later, Amy Vanderbilt wrote Amy Vanderbilt’s Complete Guide to Etiquette which has gone through numerous editions.  Vanderbilt was joined by Judith Martin, also known as Miss Manners.

Amy Vanderbilt

     During the month of June, Rita Bay’s blog will post blogs on Manners in History, Contemporary Etiquette, Workplace Etiquette, and Courting Etiquette.  Using primary sources (books written in the 19th century), we’ll check out how things were, many of which are humorous.  Later posts will share up-to-date info on introductions, conversations, dining, and workplace behavior. 

Tomorrow,  Recipes for Success    Rita Bay

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